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Energize your body and mind
3 shifts you can make to energize your body and mind as you work behind the chair. Using fuel to get you through a day at the salon.

 

Traveling the country for the last ten years teaching, attending classes, and working at hair shows, I have met some of the most incredible people!  When I slowed down this last year, working more from my hometown of Midland, Michigan, I realized how many like minded people were around me in our relatively small community!

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I had the pleasure of sitting down with fellow beauty and wellness guru, Alana Jane!  She owns many businesses, her brick and mortars, Beauty studio Aura and Wellness center Onyx.  Then she has her online empire starting with her amazing instagram filled with gorgeous vegan health food, @beautifruitful and her community Feed your glow, where she shares tips on how to heal your body through food...and she has a beauty sleep podcast that will send you into a perfect trancy slumber!  You have got to go check out all of this magical content! http://cosmetictattoostudio.com

 

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Alana is a former hairdresser who found her passion through inner beauty, wellness, and something we all love...food :)  She found that the pressures of being a hairdresser and trying to play the role of who she thought she “should be” caused her symptoms of anxiety and depression.  She questioned her path and turned to food for healing her physical and internal self.

Alana says, “Food became an integral piece in my healing.  I realized that when I eat this = anxiety. When I eat this = I feel better.”  If you follow along on her instagram @beautifruitful you will see that this love affair with nourishing fruits and veggies is the best #foodporn ever!

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The first thing Alana did in becoming aware of what was causing these issues was to quit eating sugar and replaced it with more high vibe foods such as fruits and vegetables.  As she started swapping things out she realized that the foods she was fueling her body with started to relieve the anxiety in her mind and initiated a more peaceful world around her.

 

 

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Although she eats a vegan diet and that is what works for her current state, she believes that everyone has different needs.  She says, “You can still be connected and empowered while eating animal products. Just try different things and see what works best for you.”

 

 

We all know it’s a go go go life while we are working behind the chair and we sometimes form habits of what we reach for to keep us going throughout the day ( I myself have been working through a coffee reliance for years, especially after kids!  I’m using some of Alana’s helpful tips!!) Often a large coffee, a soda, fast food, or maybe even sweets to keep the energy up are common. The problem with this is we can crash, feel more tired because of the heaviness of the food, or not eat enough and feel fatigued.

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I asked Alana what are 3 shifts we can make to fuel our bodies and our minds.

 

  1. Instead of focusing on changing things in our diet, look at it as swapping things out.  Being mindful of caffeine can make a huge impact on the way we feel and how we can sustain throughout the day!  We need internal energy (fueling our minds) just as much as the stimulation of physical energy. Bring mindfulness to cleaner energy sources to help you be in a peak state.  Instead of drinking coffee or espresso try these swaps:

-Green Tea

*Loaded with antioxidants and nutrients that have powerful effects on the body.

*Compounds in green tea can improve your brain function a.k.a. Make you more smarter :)  There is caffeine, just not as much as coffee, but there is enough to produce a response without the jitters.

-Yerbe Mate

*Lots of caffeine, less side effects, more nutrients.

*Smooth increase of energy

*So many vitamins like: A, B1, C, E, calcium, iron, magnesium, and many more!  

2. Snacks are essential, not mindless.  Shift your mind from eating a full out meal at work to small energizing bites.  Alana says to mix a fruit source with a green and that will give you the most sustainable energy. These are some of the best “fast foods” to fuel your mind and body!

-Dates

*Loaded with vitamins, minerals, and fiber

*Great for muscle development (yay we can get fit while doing that blow out!)

*Can boost your energy levels within a half an hour of consumption.  

-Celery

*Lowers inflammation, we all could use this standing all day long!

*Aids in weight loss, YAY!  Low in calories, high on electrolytes, antioxidants, potassium, B&C vitamins.

*Cures bloating and improves digestion

-Bananas

*Rich in potassium--This helps muscles to contract and nerve cells to respond, aka..you’ll be a ninja hairdresser.

*They give you a feeling of fullness very quickly!

-Smoothies

*Try a fruit mixed with spinach or spirulina.   The glucose and sodium are good for adrenal support and sustainable energy.  You want to keep your adrenaline stable because that can create anxiety. This means choose some of these power boosting foods instead of that extra double shot espresso!

3. Reframing our relationship to food.  Think about fueling yourself instead of feeding yourself.  When we are trying to be in a peak state of performance at work we want to keep our focus on our tasks at hand instead of our minds drifting toward indulging in meals.  Think to yourself, “Am I giving myself optimal fuel?” A great way to avoid feeling like you are depriving yourself of the luxury of delicious indulgence is this simple trick!  At night eat a meal amazingly yummy. Think of it as a reward. Something hearty and indulgent.

 

During the day = food for fuel

Evening meal = food for a reward

 

Keep this in mind: we are all on a journey!  Don’t judge yourself too harshly as you start to shift your habits into new healthy routines.  Go slow, and give yourself grace!

 

For more tips on healthy eating and lifestyle follow Alana at @beautifruitful on instagram and her blog A beautiful glow.

If you like this new way of thinking I have a huge treat for you!!  This fall for my Conscious haircolor tour I will have my dear friend and NYC private chef, Julia Chebotar, along with me to every location!  She will be creating healthy treats for us to sustain our energy throughout the day, give us tips on what we should eat and why!

**If you’re interested in the 2 day wellness and hair workshop at my salon in November, she will be dishing out her secrets there as well on a deeper level :)

Drop me some comments on the blog and let me know what you think!  Have a beautiful day friends!

Mind shift your way to success
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It’s going to be an amazing day at the salon!  You listened to your fav song on repeat while dancing around the house, you've got your best outfit on...the one that makes you feel like superwoman, you grab your coffee and jet off to the salon to start your day.  You spend the morning laughing and creating beautifully coiffed styles for your clients. Everything is going great! You are feeling fulfilled and unstoppable! Oh yeah, you’re owning this day.

 

Then it happens.

 

Your 12pm client is running fifteen minutes behind and she comes in flustered and talking about all of the reasons why she is late.  By the looks of it, her morning didn’t run as smoothly as yours...oh and she wants to go from her face framing balayage to a Lady Gaga inspired blonde for her “summer look”.  She also says she needs to be out of here by two to pick her kids up from daycare. You’re now another 15 minutes into the already late started appointment.

 

Yep, ok...this is possible....I can do it.---Insert inner dialogue--- “There is no way in hell that will ever happen!  What do you think I have super powers? Omg, what am I going to do? Oh, great, I just wasted another five minutes, I’m never going to be able to do this!”

 

While your head is spinning, you realize you are double booked.  

 

SURPRISE!

 

Your 12:45 double booked client is early and staring you down from the waiting room...you can feel the laser beams piercing your scrambled mind as you are just now beginning your first (late) client--and it all starts to go downhill from here.  All you can think of is everything going wrong and you are totally stuck in that mindset.

 

PAUSE!!!!!!

 

Now, I know that this is an extreme version of our bad day, but if we are honest at some level this has been our reality!  It can go from easy breezy to flying off the rails in 2.5 seconds. And let's be real, sometimes things are just out of our control physically. How can we stay calm when everything around us seems to be falling apart?

 

Instead of allowing the circumstances to control our mood and whack us out of our center, here are three simple tricks I have used to help me stay on track, handle difficult situations, and stay calm while I figure out solutions.

 

  1. Breathe

This may sound simple, but it’s the most important thing to do when we are under pressure, our heart is racing, and we are starting to panic.  Breathe. Take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your nose. If you have a few moments to step outside or in the back room use my quick meditation to relieve anxiety.  

 

Breath in through your nose for 4 seconds, hold it for 7 seconds, and release out the nose for 8 seconds. Do this a few times until you feel calm.

 

Here is a link to my modern hairdresser meditation album.  I walk you through this technique and several others that are sure to help. 

 

When we are in a state of panic, it’s very difficult to come up with solutions. Our mind is like a library of information and its flipping through every book all at once when we attach a negative experience to an emotion.  Bringing attention to our breath slows down the mind and allows us to find our center. This is a great first step in any instance where you want to crawl in a cave and hide. You will feel more clear and onto calling the shots like a boss from a clear, calm, and confident state.

 

     2. Honesty  

 

We have got to re-learn how to take our power back as professionals.  The most valuable thing I have learned on my journey as a hairdresser and just as a human being is to always deliver my point of view through a centered state.  Do step one first so that you don’t come across as harsh or unkind, especially when we may have to tell our client something they don't want to hear.  We want to come from a place of confidence and caring, not reaction.  

 

Many times clients will feel the need to "tell us" what they want/need instead of surrendering to our professionalism.  This isn't because they are a bad client or a bad person, it's from their conditioning of past experiences...whether in their personal life or a bad outcome when they sat in someone else's chair.  If we aren't confident in ourselves we may get caught in the trap of getting caught in this flow.   The misled thoughts of, "the client knows best and I must please them by doing exactly what they say so that they are happy and will come back." 

 

This is a huge problem.  The minute we lose or power is the minute we start operating in this manner.  It will lead to stress, miscommunication, probably re-do's, and, well...I think you know how this goes..."It's too brassy.  This isn't what I said.  I wanted it lighter.  This cut isn't anything like I described it.  I want my money back."  and so on and so on...

 

What we must do instead is listen, repeat back, evaluate, and make our professional recommendations confidently and with no judgement to the client and their old pattern of communicating with a hairdresser.

 

If you immediately start spouting off your truth while you are still in an anxious space, this will make the other person, whether it is a client, coworker, or boss, feel defensive.  Get clear on what it is you need to say so that you can stay on course and give professional guidance.

 

3.  Refocus

 

 Where your focus goes energy flows.  If you are focusing on all of the things that may go wrong, you will feel stress and resistance.  The best thing we can do is give attention to the positives. When you feel yourself feeding into a negative plot line instead of judging yourself for going down this path pause and refocus. Switch the script in your mind using a mantra.  A mantra is a simple statement that when repeated over and over again reprograms your mind to follow that belief you want instead of the negative one that was created.  

 

Here are a few to help you refocus:

-I am in charge of how I feel today, I choose happiness

-I accept and allow success to flow today

-I attract positive outcomes

-I am full of inner peace

-I radiate love and understanding

-I trust my inner vision to make decisions

 

Next time you feel the surge of uncertainty, just remember: You hold all of the power, you are unstoppable, you are in control of your destiny, and you are amazing! 

YOU’VE GOT THIS.

If you like this and want to come visit me in a hands on workshop here is my Fall Conscious Haircoloring Tour list!  I’d love to see you in person and expand our minds together :) Take a peek at the 2 day master class if you're a hairdresser interested in immersing in health, wellness, business, and hair with 15 other like minded hairdressers ready to grow!

 

Want more now?  Check out my meditation album for the modern hairdresser.  Four guided meditations with music, including the breathing technique for anxiety I mentioned in this blog.  You can download and take with you anywhere!  Watch the magic of your unfold as you find yourself with more clarity, attracting abundance, and eliminating stress from your life.

 

 

 

 

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And then she was a butterfly...
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“When she transformed into a butterfly, the caterpillars spoke not of her beauty, but of her weirdness.  They wanted her to change back into what she always had been. But she had wings.”
-Dean Jackson

 

 

If you are in a difficult place in your life that doesn’t feel true to who you are, the only way out  is to make a change -- any other path is likely to result in unhappiness. Continuing to remain in a place mentally or physically that doesn’t serve you, means it will continue to not serve you, over and over again.

 

The only way to rid yourself of this heavy weight is doing something even more challenging --  stepping into transformation.

 

Transformation is like change on steroids.  

 

It’s not a little tweak, it’s full on overhaul. It’s an evaluation of yourself and your surroundings and then relentlessly moving in the opposite direction of your old habits and patterns.

 

You’re probably thinking this sounds like a fun, scary, exciting, or difficult opportunity, huh?  

 

That’s cool, and it will be all of those things. I will also help you along the way and give you some other tools to rely on when you get stuck. If you’re already making excuses as to why you think this couldn’t happen for you because of your particular life situations...I got you.

 

When you’re done here go ahead and read the Excuses are like... blog post and when you are really ready to take the leap, go ahead and start planning out your future lifestyle with the guidance of the 4 essentials to living your dream life.

 

I believe that our inner dialogue dictates so much of what happens in the outside world -- AKA, our life. It wasn’t until just a few years ago that I became very aware of this phenomenon and how it had been playing out in my life. I noticed that when I truly set my intention on something, believed in it wholeheartedly, and stopped obsessing over it -- it would happen.

 

In addition to the amazing things you may manifest into your life, if your inner dialogue gets bogged down with negative thoughts toward yourself or others, that is what will play out in your reality.

 

Let’s run through an example: Your coworker is driving you crazy because they never clean up after themselves, always show up late and give no apologies for their behavior. This makes you insane on the inside because you just can’t believe that they would disrespect their workspace and the client’s time like this. In your mind, you are judging them, calling them lazy and disrespectful. You don’t like working with them (insert inner third eye roll) and they are under your skin...and could care less or unaware.  

 

While they continue on, you can’t let go of all the ridiculous things they are doing and that’s all you can focus on. You start feeling stressed out and annoyed. Now you are hitting every stop light on the way home from work, your gas light just went on, you forgot to get groceries, and you get home to what looks like the aftermath of a hurricane. You’ve had enough and you are reacting to everyone in your house by yelling and now you have a headache.  Are you relating yet?

 

We give so much of our personal energy away when we focus on the negative. When the internal dialogue is playing out this drama and frustration it will appear in all aspects of your life.  That is the law of attraction happening folks.

 

To truly rid yourself of this takes practice and strength. Being brave enough to take a look at what you’re saying to yourself through your inner dialogue is the first step! Congrats! Now that I’ve got your attention and you are listening to that dialogue, say something nice to the inner you :)   You are perfect just the way you are, wherever you are now, wherever you have been, and where you will be.  Be kind and gentle to your past, present, and future self.

 

To keep this trend going in your life, here are three things that I have found that helped me transform from getting caught up in drama to living a life that has limitless possibilities and an abundance of happiness.

 

1.  Grace.  Give it to yourself, and give it often. Be gentle to yourself in this growth process and you’ll start to become aware of what is really going on beneath the surface. Assessing the inner dialogue, you’ll find some of the things you think about yourself and others will make you want to judge yourself. Know that you are not alone in this. This is a brave act and not everyone is ready to look at themselves. As you uncover things that you don’t like, and want to change, just acknowledge the thoughts and choices, forgive them and let them go. They are gone and you don’t have to feel guilt. We don’t have time to wallow in the past, so let’s move forward into a beautiful place.

 

2.  Acceptance.  Believe that you are deserving of all of the good things that are about to come your way. You are doing the work on yourself and must be ready to receive the amazing feelings and experiences that will happen as a result. Also know that with this change others will judge you and there will be haters. People who knew the old you will be uncomfortable for a time. Accept that this is not because of you. It is them, and with time, maybe they will be inspired to make the same leap into chane. Don’t halt your transformation because of others insecurities. Just give them tip #1...grace :)

 

3.  Visualize.  Now that you have gained some awareness, we need to move, move, move forward. Who do you want to become?  Where do you want to go? What does that life look like? Be clear on what this looks like and feels like. You can use my manifest your dream life workbook to help you get started.  I have a few words that are related to how I want to feel. I remind myself of them all the time.  Write them on sticky notes, repeat them in your journal, meditate on them, they are sacred. Everything you do should be working toward the goal of that feeling, so if it’s not serving you, go the opposite direction.

 

You’ve got this, you deserve this.  :)

 

Peace & love,

Kelli

 

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Excuses are like...
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A bad habit.   You thought I was going somewhere else with that, didn't you?  That's why I like you and you're here with me reading this, high five!

 

Excuses are just like bad habits.  No one wants to admit that they have them.  We hide them in shame.  We create reasons for them.  We hang on to them for dear life.  We rely on them to stay in our comfort zone.  Excuses and bad habits are where dreams go to die.

 

Why do we do this?  Why do we fill our vocabulary with BS excuses?  (And trust me I am no innocent bystander--I may be the worst of them...we will get to that later...)  Sometimes we aren't even aware that we are doing it.  It just sort of blends in with the rest of life and becomes normal.  Just check out these three common prompts.  They are all the beginnings of excuses.

 

I can't because...

I don't know.

If only I...

 

Have you heard yourself say these lately?  These things right here are where fear, complacency, self-doubt, etc. etc. love to dwell.  If you are using these in your verbiage, I bet you are struggling to achieve a goal.  I bet you are having a hard time letting something go.  Maybe you are feeling low self-esteem or experiencing depression?  

 

I say this not to judge, but to relate.  Until we are aware of these excuses, we cannot take ownership of them.  We cannot make the moves leading to progression and experience fulfillment.  When we are unaware of our actions our minds are ruling us.  They are OWNING us.  

 

My job here today is to bring you awareness. You cannot unread or unsee this...so, HA GOTCHA!  Now every time you catch yourself starting to say these excuses you will have a choice.  Will you continue down that current path, or will you choose another?

  

The new path might not be easy, but it may be filled with blessings.  Every twist and turn offer a chance to reflect on a lesson learned and an opportunity to earn your personal growth.  Now the question is, do you want to keep growing?  Do you want to keep exploring this path?  Challenge yourself. Every time you are about to make an excuse, FORCE yourself to say the opposite.

LIKE THIS:

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Just to give you an example of just how deep down in the pit of "I don't know" I was before becoming aware of what my excuses really meant...My husband used to habitually say, "I should get you a t-shirt that says I don't know."  YIKES.  At that time I was not ready to grow.  I was in denial and basking in my self-pity.  The “why does everything happen to me” phase.   

 

I'm here to tell you, you don't have to go down that road.  You can get out right now. Take the leap of faith with me and let's #dropthedont from our life.  Deep down when we say "I don't know", we really do know.  We are just afraid to dig deep enough to uncover the answer.  

 

It's like your friend asking what you want to eat for dinner and your response is, "I don't know."  Yes biatch, you do know.  You want those delicious tacos, the queso, and the side of chips and guac. OWN IT.  Pause long enough to allow yourself to find the answer then make a choice, even if it scary...and even if it's tacos :)

Peace, Love, and Tacos xo,

Kelli

 

For more clarity on how to start making drastic change...check out this 4 essentials to living your dream life blog and download the FREE manifesting worksheet!

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Flip your world upside down
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“Rock, paper, scissors... Shoot!”

 

“Darn...I lost!”

 

This was the backseat commentary I overheard while driving through the streets of suburbia yesterday. My four year old daughter, Lennon, was having a grand ol’ time playing her new favorite game in the back seat...while losing over and over again. Rock-paper-scissors is a serious game of competition, chance and bragging rights and one which she was getting a little frustrated with on a consistent losing streak.

 

At the next stop light I peeked back to see how my three year old son was seemingly dominating this RPS battle. Nope. He was passed out cold, loudly snoring with his head tipped back in his car seat.  

 

Curious, I asked her,  “Lennon, who are you playing rock paper scissor with?”

 

She replied with her fake serious voice, “I’m playing by myself and I keep losing!!!”

 

I love these moments as a parent, because they are those brilliant flashes of wisdom, where you sound very intellectual and can actually make sense of the world in the midst of a four year old’s silliness. AKA - you have your shit together.

 

Puzzled by her logic and sporting my best all-knowing-mom smirk, I asked her “Lennon, how can you lose, if you’re playing against yourself? If you’re losing...who is winning?”

 

She smiled an equally mischievous smile in return and replied, “I am winning.”

 

In that moment, we both learned something. Maybe on different levels, but we got it.

 

You can’t lose if you are competing with yourself! Even in the times it feels like a loss, undeniably, it will always be win.

 

Sometimes in order to ‘get it’, you’ve got to flip your world completely upside down. You have to look from a different perspective and take cues from a child and the other subtle hints the universe offers you in these moments.  The experiences that often feel like failures are actually a sign that we need to learn a lesson. Pay close attention.   

 

When we spend so much of our time and energy trying to get to the next level or attain higher goals by comparing what our idea of success is versus other people, we will never feel fulfilled.

 

Think about a time when you finally got to a benchmark in your life -- but when you got there, you had the feeling of ‘wait, is that...it?”  Were you expecting to experience the fulfillment that you perceived someone else was having when they got to that point?  Kind of like seeing an ad in a magazine of someone having what seems like "the time of their life" on a trip.  Then you go on that exact same trip because they hook, line, and sinkered you into believing it will change your life.  Only to find out that it was a total rip off and not at all what you expected.  You feel less than thrilled and rather pissed off that you fell for such a scam.  THAT is exactly what happens when you compare your idea of success, happiness, or fulfillment to another persons.  You are gonna be disappointed. 

 

We put so many demands on ourselves to be where other people are at on their journey, because that is the way we have been programmed to believe that happiness is achieved.  Per the example of the magazine ad...that is happening to us every.single.day.  Every time you look at any kinds of media...that is their intention.

 

The most beautiful gift I have discovered that has made all of this a reality is my yoga practice. When I first stepped into a yoga studio, I was all excited to be there with my matching outfit and cool new yoga mat...but suddenly I got knocked straight down the totem pole -- both quick and fast with the realization I had a long way to go.  Physically and mentally.

 

I’m stumbling around on my mat, trying to hold my big toe in front of me, while everyone around me is effortlessly swaying from one pose to the next. I thought about quitting, but then I listened.

 

Every word my teacher said in savasana (basically a yogi nap) resonated with me. Focus on you.

 

It is your practice and your journey. It’s the simple things that we struggle with.  Focusing on what others are doing, then feeling defeated if we aren’t where they are. Focus only on what you are doing, your progress, and your victories.  It’s a marvelous thing to be able to pat your own self on the back, laugh at your mistakes while finding joy in the lesson, and being in awe when you realize who you are.

 

Flip your world upside down, look at yourself from a new vantage point and learn everything you can from yourself. Even if you fall, even if you fail...you still win, because you are playing the game with yourself...and no one else.  

 

Realizing this is what freedom feels like.

 

I’ll leave this quote right here from my savasana this morning.  They always are perfectly perfect, be free my friends.

 

“We have a lot of educated people in our society.  I just don’t know how many free people we have.” -Jim Palmer


 

Peace,

Kelli

 

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Simple manifesting guide: Living the life of your dreams
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After reading about my journey, I hope you feel excited that you can come out on the other side of struggle...realizing your have the power to take control of your happiness.

 

About five years ago, I was unhappy in my career, complacent with my decisions and I had a one year old on my hip while pregnant with child number two. I was a stylist that had bounced around to different salons seeking the dream I had in my mind. I had a vision not only of how I wanted my life to look, but how I wanted it to feel. I wanted a flexible schedule to help support and spend time with my growing family, to influence hairstylists across the world and be around others in an uplifting environment.  

 

Sounds simple, right?  

 

Well, it was...but remember when I said I never take the easy route in Take a look at yourself through your third eye?  This is one of those times! 

 

To take steps to pursue that dream, I decided to open a salon! The salon of my dreams that was going to go exactly how I planned...everyone was happy, excited, thriving...it’s a lovely picture isn’t it?

 

The reality did not exactly play out that way. The first year was exciting, like the honeymoon phase. As time went on it started to fall apart. I started to resent going to work in my own business and I was miserable. There were tears every day when I came home from my salon.  I couldn’t figure out why I was so unhappy. I blamed others, I blamed my circumstance and just about everything felt out of my control. That feeling freaked me out because I felt like if I didn’t have control, I would not be successful.  It wasn’t shaping up the way I had envisioned it...not at all.

 

To combat this, I completely rewrote my entire business plan, started a new one and thought finally, this is it! This is how it will work. I took the advice of everyone around me that was successful, surely if they could do it, I could too.  Follow the steps, follow the path, and BOOM dream life.

 

Nope.  

 

I still carried stressed and was overwhelmed, feeling as though I couldn’t manage everything I wanted to do. I felt so defeated that the new plan didn’t turn out the way I hoped and that was really sad.  The way I wanted this all to LOOK wasn’t there.  

 

It wasn’t until I got over myself and realized there was only one thing I had control over - and that was my happiness.  I had been spending so much time comparing others success to what mine should LOOK like, and not enough time paying attention to how I felt.  I wanted to feel happy.

 

That is the only thing that we are completely in control of.

 

I had to make some very hard decisions that scared the shit out of me...but I knew it would be worth it, because I wanted happiness.  As much as I loved the people around me, I felt called to something different. 

 

Initially I had very little clarity as to what I wanted to do with my salon career and you may be feeling that way too.  However, I did know how I wanted to feel on the inside...and it truly all starts there.  Once you get that sorted out, the rest just starts to reveal itself.

 

Starting out, the only thing I was certain about was that I wanted to be a hairstylist, a teacher, own my own business, and that ultimately I wanted to make a difference in the lives of others. I wanted to have an intention, not just do things aimlessly.

 

So a few years ago, in order to help find my path, I started reading books on self improvement and spiritual guidance which taught me numerous lessons. For the first time I got really serious about surrounding myself with people who would both help me and hold me accountable to what I said I wanted personally, professionally and spiritually.  

 

If this is something you are exploring, I have attached a simple guide made up of perspectives that have dramatically improved my clarity and direction in business and personal life.  If you don’t use it, it won’t work. So go ahead and fill it out and enjoy the journey!

 

Your Dream

This is your intent. It’s so important to set your intentions so that you can let go of the control of the journey. Throw it out there let it fly! Close your eyes and let yourself be vulnerable to how you want to feel in your life. When you feel that feeling, what are you doing? What is happening around you? What is that life like? That would be what you should consider your dream life.  

**NOTE** Everyone’s will be different so do not try to compare or judge what comes up. It could be career, personal, spiritual, family life, etc. Just see what comes to you and write it down!

 

Your action plan

This is your dedication. Committing yourself to your intention. Your actions speak louder than words--ever heard that? :) We need to set a few things in place that will focus on to get you closer to your true intention. This can be simple, so don’t overthink it.

 

Your daily mantra

I love this part! I even write my mantra on my bathroom mirror so that every day I have to read it, and it’s in lipstick so it’s cute and funny. Your mantra can be a simple sentence that helps you stay on track. It can be an “I am” statement or really anything that reminds you of your intention and the dedication you made.

 

What makes you happy

What is your passion? What makes you really feel good in your heart? Is it to help other people, travel, be with your kids more? Write this down and smile while you do it :)

 

I encourage you to have fun with this!  Start by printing off this Simple Manifesting Guide

Click here to read the last blog The essentials that also might help you on filling out your guide.

 

"So do it. Decide, is this the life you want to live?  Is this the person you want to love?  Is this the best you can be?  Can you be stronger?  Kinder?  More compassionate?  Decide.  Breathe in.  Breathe out and decide."  - M. Grey
 

Peace,

Kelli

 

 

 

LifeKelli Mason
The essentials

What is a dream life?

No one's dream life is the same.  You cannot compare yours to someone else's.  That will defeat the whole purpose.  In my next segment we will go over how to figure it out, so don't get too wrapped up in the details.  This is your guideline of what to expect if you darlingly choose to go down this path of awesome.  I believe that one's dream life is an experience where you are consciously choosing what will unfold.  

 

It’s funny what happens when you start to follow your dreams.  Suddenly people are so curious how you're "doing it".  They are fascinated that you are doing something you love, you’re happy, and successful.  Everyone wants in on the secret.  You will hear this, “You are so lucky, I wish I could do that.” I am here to tell you that if you really want it, you can have it.  The road may be rough and lonely at times, but it is possible if you’re willing to put in the blood, sweat, and tears….and there will be tears!  I have found that it boils down to these essentials:

 

INTENT

 

 

DEDICATION

 

 

PERSEVERANCE

 

 

PASSION

 

If one of those is missing, I’m pretty sure you’re going to find yourself frustrated that you’re not getting to where you want to be happily and fulfilled.

 

 

Let’s break these down the 4 essentials:

 

 

Intent-  What is your reason WHY?  What drives you to live your dream life?  Help others achieve a goal?  Have more time to be with you family?  Travel?  Make a positive impact in your field?  Believing in your intent will keep you on course through the bumpy roads of self doubt and calm the storms of spiteful critics.  Your intent will remind you to NEVER GIVE UP.  When you feel like quitting, clarify your intent.

 

Dedication-  Affirm commitment to your intent with an action plan.  This means the discipline to do what's  necessary even when you don’t feel like it.  It’s like a training program for your life.  This will require goal setting and holding yourself accountable to do the "not-so-fun" things in your dream life scenario.  Basically, when you don’t want to write that e-mail,  meet the deadline, or do the research, you have to do it.  There is no way around it.  There will always be tasks, jobs, or scenarios that are on the path to the top.  Take control of your dream life quest because you are the most disciplined.  Get up early, eat right, exercise, work smarter and ENJOY the opportunity to always be better.

 

Perseverance- When you get knocked down, turned down, or you have to start over, get back up.  This takes a lot of will power and an insane dedication to your intent (are you starting to see a pattern?)  On this road you will have doubt, fear, worry, and lots of slaps in the face.  How you deal with these life speed bumps is totally up to you.  At this point I’m pretty great at perseverance. I have many lessons I will share in another blog from my own experiences on how to break through when you are on the brink of giving up.

 

Passion-  This piece of the recipe is pretty easy.  Doing what you love shouldn't be difficult. What gets you really hyped, and puts that twinkle in your eye when you talk about it?  This is directly linked to your intent and following what makes your soul on fire will help you gain clarity on your intent while on the road to your dream life.

 

"As we progress, we peel back the layers of ourselves.  If we are aware while we do this, we will discover our true purpose and potential."
-Kelli Mason

 

Peace,

Kelli  

 

 

LifeKelli Mason
Take a look at yourself through your third eye
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Darkness is a place no one wants to be in.  It can feel like a deep hole with no escape ladder, a cave with no exit sign, a house with no doors or windows---A trap.  I have allowed myself to feel like this so many times in my life.  The good news is I have discovered many things down in the depths of there and I want to share them with you.  If there is one thing I have learned in my almost 31 years of life it’s that we’re all a hell of a lot more alike than we are different.  We are all here for the same purpose, just different paths.  This is mine.

 

 

I am a hairstylist by trade.  It is my passion, my creative outlet, and my natural gift.  It has never been hard for me to look at a head of hair and create a plan to make it prettier and more flattering.  It is easy and fun.  What has been hard for me is acceptance.  Acceptance of who I am and who I am meant to be.  Which I have now discovered is the opposite of darkness, it is purely and simply; light and love--A vessel delivering goodness. The funny thing with acceptance is that no one can make us realize it, it has to come from within. Wouldn't that be nice if there was some sort of "A-HA" slapper that could just punch you in the face and suddenly you know "how to just be"?  --Oh wait, there is...it's called life!  It will slap you, kick you, punch you in the face lots of times until you get it. At the end of the day it is our responsibility to develop this awareness and actually do something about it.  We cannot gain acceptance from the approval of others.  Sometimes that road to discovery is long, winding and full of pot holes and slaps in the face from life.  It’s how you navigate them that will make you triumphant or stuck.

 

 

Navigating these life assaults has not been easy for me because I have always been a pleaser.  I would try to make everyone else happy before myself.  If my guest’s at the salon, kids, parents, friends, students, literally anyone in my circle wasn’t happy with something I was doing...I would lose sleep, become stressed, have anxiety, even fall into depression.  Suddenly everything in my world would seem to be against me.  Enter in the shame, blame, and poor me game--life likes to lay it on thick with these ones to really make you wake up.  This is where the escape ladder disappears and the hole seems to get deeper.  I would blame myself for everyone else’s stuff, when in fact I have no business doing that.  It does no good meddling in other people’s “stuff”...(I will refer that often, meaning their own issues, insecurities, fears, and basically life drama)  All it does is creates more unnecessary  drama in your own life.  And that's no bueno.  When you dwell in the other's "stuff" you can not create, you can not progress, you can not feel fulfilled.  Let it go, let it be...it's not yours to deal with.

 

So what can you do to avoid being in the dark hole of blah?  Simple.  Focus on you and start creating the life that will make you feel good and whole-YOUR DREAM LIFE. Become in charge of your life instead of feeling like it’s being dictated to you...it’s not!  Stop believing that whatever your situation is that you are destined for that forever. You have total power to alter your course. Instead of focusing on what everyone else is doing, feeling, saying, being like...what are you feeling, saying, doing...being like?  Are you doing the things you wish to see in other people?  Are you saying things that you wish other people would say to you?  As soon as I stopped worrying about whatever other people would think of me, I wrote this blog.  So here we are on this path to acceptance together.

 

 

To share what you know is to grow.  

 

Peace,

Kelli